Well, to talk about those relationships. A very important topic. At the rate our relationships are breaking down society is starting to notice the impact. The impact of kids brought up in a single parent family, the impact of single mums struggling to gain some identity, the impact of lone fathers struggling with having kids he doesn't have any input into any more.
We all know of the hassels that kids face growing up with out the traditional family support system in place. So what can we do about it all. Make our relationship work? How do we do that. Should we stay together for the kids sake or is that worse.
I suppose the trouble is that breakdown in relationship just sort of sneaks up and we don't even realize it is happening until it is too late. And once it is too late it is usually too hard to bring it back. Something is gone and it can't be restored. So I suppose the answer is to work at making our relationship happen right from the start.
But today, there are just too many pressures of modern life to have enough time left over to devote to our relationship. We both have to work to make ends meet. The house mortgage has to be paid and there are always many bills waiting. You know the story. We always seem to spend about 10% more than our income. And those pressures mount up and take their toll. He will find the need to get away some times and just spend time with his mates at the pub or footy and have a few beers and try and forget about life for an hour or two. She doesn't have that same means to relieve the pressure so can't understant why he has to do that. That causes conflict and another wedge to the pressure cooker situation.
So no one seems to have all the answers. Some find satisfaction in a church situation and a change of life style and someone greater than them to help with answers although the separation rate in church is the still the same.
The only small clue I can give you is this. Your relationship is not meant to be a 50/50 arrangement. It has to be 100/100. Both of you have to be putting in 100% all the time and if one is not then the other partner will find it an impossible task to make up the missing percentage. Sit down and talk about that. Do it now before it gets too hard. Work out ways you can both put in more and do it because you love your partner. Honest communication and an earnest desire to serve your mate because of that love will go a long way to seeing you beat those breakup figures.
Catch you soon..Nick
http://www.cadenville1.com
We all know of the hassels that kids face growing up with out the traditional family support system in place. So what can we do about it all. Make our relationship work? How do we do that. Should we stay together for the kids sake or is that worse.
I suppose the trouble is that breakdown in relationship just sort of sneaks up and we don't even realize it is happening until it is too late. And once it is too late it is usually too hard to bring it back. Something is gone and it can't be restored. So I suppose the answer is to work at making our relationship happen right from the start.
But today, there are just too many pressures of modern life to have enough time left over to devote to our relationship. We both have to work to make ends meet. The house mortgage has to be paid and there are always many bills waiting. You know the story. We always seem to spend about 10% more than our income. And those pressures mount up and take their toll. He will find the need to get away some times and just spend time with his mates at the pub or footy and have a few beers and try and forget about life for an hour or two. She doesn't have that same means to relieve the pressure so can't understant why he has to do that. That causes conflict and another wedge to the pressure cooker situation.
So no one seems to have all the answers. Some find satisfaction in a church situation and a change of life style and someone greater than them to help with answers although the separation rate in church is the still the same.
The only small clue I can give you is this. Your relationship is not meant to be a 50/50 arrangement. It has to be 100/100. Both of you have to be putting in 100% all the time and if one is not then the other partner will find it an impossible task to make up the missing percentage. Sit down and talk about that. Do it now before it gets too hard. Work out ways you can both put in more and do it because you love your partner. Honest communication and an earnest desire to serve your mate because of that love will go a long way to seeing you beat those breakup figures.
Catch you soon..Nick
http://www.cadenville1.com
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